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#10 Life is too short to waste time hating anyone. Forgive them for everything.

If we're very lucky, most of us will see about seventy years worth of laughter, tears, fun, fear, garbage, and awesomeness.  We'll have dreams and we'll see them through, or maybe they won't work out at all.  But we should all aspire to fill our lives with as much love as we can -- love for ourselves, for each other, for the world.  Hate is a difficult emotion to handle, because it poisons everything that it touches.  Emotions like hurt and fear often turn into hate.  It can be hard to control.  I'm not going to say "If someone hurts you, forgive them and everything will be wonderful and you can love them again!"  It doesn't always work like that.  Stuff's complicated.  But one thing I do know is that if you dwell on all of the bad things which are done to you, and obsess over the people that you dislike or even hate, you'll be taking time away from doing what you love -- and you could also be spending that time with the ones who love you.   Hating can be a tempting thing indeed.  But even if you can't forgive or forget readily, remember not to lose sight of the fact that you are in control of how you share your emotional time.  Don't harm yourself with negativity.  Try to rise above it and place your focus elsewhere.

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#9 Life isn't fair, but its still good

Often our first response to adversity is "why me?" We all have suffered from loss and trouble.

Life Isn't always fair.  In fact sometimes it is very unfair. But we have to remember bad luck doesn't just happen to us.  It is not personal.  It is universal.

Ernest Hemingway once said: "The world breaks everyone. and afterward,many are strong in the broken places."

When we are going through adversity, it is not always possible to believe that everyone suffers loss and heartache. It feels and acts very personal when bad luck and rotten life experiences happen to good people.

It's Not Fair

We decided to recognize and joke that no matter what we did, it was never going to come out even. But the joy was that you knew that the chances were good that one day it would be your turn to get exactly what you wanted. We would often recite the battle cry of large families and pre-schools around the world; "You get what you get, and you don't throw a fit."

Luck or Life

Life is filled with luck and also filled with change and chance. As Ernest Hemingway said earlier, we all get broken in some way and it is the broken places that make us strong.

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#8 Eat breakfast like a king , lunch like a prince and dinner like a college kid with maxed out charge card.

Break your fast in the morning by having heavy meal followed by ample lunch to give your lost strength back but light dinner to keep you healthy.Keep having something or the other. Don't keep your stomach empty. Avoid fast foods as far as possible. But remember eat to live, don't live to eat.

#7 Don't waste your precious energy in gossip,energy vampires, issues of past, negative thoughts, or things you cannot control. Instead invest your energy in the positive present moment.

You have probably had someone tell you to "look on the bright side" or to "see the cup as half full." Chances are good that the people who make these comments are positive thinkers. Researchers are finding more and more evidence pointing to the many benefits of optimism and positive thinking.

Such findings suggest that not only are positive thinkers healthier and less stressed, they also have greater overall well-being. According to positive psychology researcher Suzanne Segerstrom, "Setbacks are inherent to almost every worthwhile human activity, and a number of studies show that optimists are in general both psychologically and physiologically healthier."

Even if positive thinking does not come naturally to you, there are plenty of great reasons to start cultivating affirmative thoughts and minimizing negative self-talk.

Positive Thinkers Cope Better With Stress

When faced with stressful situations, positive thinkers cope more effectively than pessimists. In one study, researchers found that when optimists encounter a disappointment (such as not getting a job or promotion) they are more likely to focus on things they can do to resolve the situation. Rather than dwelling on their frustrations or things that they cannot change, they will devise a plan of action and ask others for assistance and advice. Pessimists, on the other hand, simply assume that the situation is out of their control and there is nothing they can do to change it.

Optimism Can Improve Your Immunity

In recent years, researchers have found that your mind can have a powerful effect on your body. Immunity is one area where your thoughts and attitudes can have a particularly powerful influence. In one study, researchers found that activation in brain areas associated with negative emotions led to a weaker immune response to a flu vaccine. Researchers Segerstrom and Sephton found that people who were optimistic about a specific and important part of their lives, such as how well they were doing in school, exhibited a stronger immune response than those who had a more negative view of the situation.

Positive Thinking Is Good for Your Health

Not only can positive thinking impact your ability to cope with stress and your immunity, it also has an impact on your overall well-being. The Mayo Clinic reports a number of health benefits associated with optimism, including a reduced risk of death from cardiovascular problems, less depression, and an increased lifespan. While researchers are not entirely clear on why positive thinking benefits health, some suggest that positive people might lead healthier lifestyles. By coping better with stress and avoiding unhealthy behaviors, they are able to improve their health and well-being.

It Can Make You More Resilient

Resilience refers to our ability to cope with problems. Resilient people are able to face a crisis or trauma with strength and resolve. Rather than falling apart in the face of such stress, they have the ability to carry on and eventually overcome such adversity. It may come as no surprise to learn that positive thinking can play a major role in resilience. When dealing with a challenge, optimists typically look at what they can do to fix the problem. Instead of giving up hope, they marshal their resources and are willing to ask others for help.

Researchers have also found that in the wake of a crisis, such as a terrorist attack or natural disaster, positive thoughts and emotions encourage thriving and provide a sort of buffer against depression among resilient people. Fortunately experts also believe that such positivism and resilience can be cultivated. By nurturing positive emotions, even in the face of terrible events, people can reap both short-term and long-term rewards, including managing stress levels, lessening depression, and building coping skills that will serve them well in the future.

Final Thoughts

Before you put on those rose-colored glasses, it is important to note that positive thinking is not about taking a "Pollyanna" approach to life. In fact, researchers have found that in some instances, optimism might not serve you well. For example, people who are excessively optimistic might overestimate their own abilities and take on more than they can handle, ultimately leading to more stress and anxiety.

Instead of ignoring reality in favor of the silver lining, psychologists suggest that positive thinking centers on such things as a belief in your abilities, a positive approach to challenges, and trying to make the most of bad situations. Bad things will happen. Sometimes you will be disappointed or hurt by the actions of others. This does not mean that the world is out to get you or that all people will let you down. Instead, positive thinkers will look at the situation realistically, search for ways that they can improve the situation, and try to learn from their experiences.

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#6 Try to make atleast three people smile each day

The Golden Rule, Karma, whatever you want to call it—"doing unto others as you would have done to you" is one of the most-used-clichés.

But, as it turns out, this ancient advice might have a truly legitimate scientific basis. Psychologists have dubbed it the "helper's high," a blissful feeling that you get after you do something for someone else that is genuinely kind. These euphoric emotions are attributed to dopamine and oxytocin—two mood-boosting chemicals—that are released after a person performs a good deed for their fellow man (or woman).

One study on the helper's high phenomenon, conducted by United Healthcare, found that, among people who spent a few hours per week doing face-to-face volunteer work, 96 percent said that they felt happier, and 73 percent said that they felt less stressed.

So, why is it that caregivers, many of whom spend the majority of their waking hours caring for someone else, aren't constantly tripping out on the helper's high?

According to Stephen Post, Ph.D., director of the Center for Medical Humanities, Compassionate Care and Bioethics at Stony Brook University, caregivers simply spend too much time and energy caring for their loved ones to see the benefits of the helper's high. Not to mention the other myriad stressors that can occur, like lost jobs, financial trouble, strained family relationships, and the pain of watching a loved one who is suffering, all of which take a toll on a caregiver's mood.

Why helping other caregivers, helps you

But, that doesn't mean that caregivers can't find joy in helping others. It just means that they may need to approach it from a different angle.

Post, a former caregiver, and member of the Medical and Scientific Advisory Panel of Alzheimer's Disease International, says that participation in support groups and forums can be a good way for caregivers to reap the benefits of another kind of service-induced euphoria: the helper therapy principle.

The helper therapy principle, is the term used to describe the good feelings that people get when they participate in mutual-aid support groups.

Research has shown that both the helpers and the helped can benefit from support groups. Those who are helped receive guidance and counsel, while the helpers receive the positive emotions and feelings of increased relevance that coincide with translating their personal experiences into advice for others.

According to Post, support groups and forums, "give people in that community the opportunity to help others. There can be a lot of laughter and positive emotion when people are listening to another caregiver and supporting them."

And, thanks to the Internet, you don't have to seek out a physical support group to find ways to help your fellow caregiver. Online support groups and forums are a wonderful way for a time-strapped caregiver to offer advice and assistance to their fellow men and women in the trenches at any time of the day or night.

Tina B. Tessina, Ph.D., psychotherapist, and author of "It Ends With You: Grow Up and Out Of Dysfunction," offers a few suggestions for ways that caregivers can find personal happiness through supporting one another:

1. Send inspiration: There's definite value in sending someone you care about an uplifting message. Try this: each day, pick one or two caregivers in your life, and send them a quick, inspirational quote, to start off their day. Even if they can't respond that same day, chances are that your gift of encouragement was noticed and will eventually be reciprocated in some way.
2. Listen with love: "So many of us are lost about how to help a friend in times of grief; but all that's really needed is a little kindness, and a listening ear," Tessina says. Even when you have no specific advice or guidance, it may help a caregiver just to let them know that you are listening. Send someone who's going through a rough time a short message telling them that they are heard and that others are thinking about them.
3. Re-gift your experiences: The gift of experience is arguably one of the most precious commodities a person can receive—and most veteran caregivers are filled to the brim with cautionary tales and personal anecdotes to share. Seek out someone who's going through the same type of situation that you have gone through and offer your opinion on how (or how not) to handle it. Your fellow caregivers will benefit from any well-thought-out advice you can provide.
4. Mind your Ps and Qs: When offering up and receiving advice, it's important to remember to be kind and courteous. Don't forget two of the most important phrases in the English language: ‘please,' and ‘thank you.' "Every gift is an expression of love, and every giver should be thanked graciously, no matter what the gift is," Tessina says. Even when you're interacting online, remember that there are real people behind the screen names and avatars you're responding to, and they deserve to be treated as such.

Among experts and policy makers, there's an ongoing search for new, more effective, ways of helping people cope with the challenges of looking after their elderly loved ones. But, in the meantime, by engaging with and assisting one another, caregivers have an opportunity to take advantage of the scientifically-proven cycle of well-being that can occur when people in a group decide to lift one another up.

For his part, Post feels that, too often, the positive aspects of taking care of a loved onecan get lost among the dour language that has infected the issue. He says, "Even in caregiving, there can be flourishing and growth. It creates community and allows people to form deeper relationships."

source: agingcare.com

#5 Drink green tea and plenty of water. Eat blueberries, broccoli and almonds.

Green tea has increasingly become a very popular drink worldwide because of its immensely powerful health benefits. It is extraordinarily amazing what green tea can do for your health. And if you're not drinking three to four cups of green tea today, you're definitely not doing your health a big favor. Here are the 25 reasons why you should start drinking green tea right now:

1. Green tea and cancer: Green tea helps reduce the risk of cancer. The antioxidant in green tea is 100 times more effective than vitamin C and 24 times better than vitamin E. This helps your body at protecting cells from damage believed to be linked to cancer.

2. Green tea and heart disease: Green tea helps prevent heart disease and stroke by lowering the level of cholesterol. Even after the heart attack it prevents cell deaths and speeds up the recovery of heart cells.

3. Green tea and Anti-aging: Green tea contains an antioxidant known as polyphenols which fight against free radicals. What this means it helps you fight against aging and promotes longevity.

4. Green tea and weight loss: Green tea helps with your body weight loss. Green tea burns fat and boosts your metabolism rate naturally. It can help you burn up to 70 calories in just one day. That translates to 7 pounds in one year.

Broccoli's noteworthy nutrients include vitamin C, vitamin A (mostly as beta-carotene), folic acid, calcium, and fiber. While the calcium content of one serving doesn't equal that of a glass of milk, broccoli is an important calcium source for those who don't consume dairy products. Calcium does more than build strong bones. Research shows that this mineral may play a role in the control of high blood pressure, and it may work to prevent colon cancer. 
Beta-carotene and vitamin C are important antioxidants that have been linked to a reduced risk of numerous conditions, including cataracts,heart disease, and several cancers.

Broccoli is a fiber find. Not only is it a rich source, but half of its fiber is insoluble and half is soluble, helping to meet your needs for both types of fiber. But the story doesn't end with broccoli's rich array of nutrients. Broccoli provides a health bonus in the form of protective substances that may shield you from disease. Botanically, broccoli belongs to the cabbage family, collectively known as cruciferous vegetables.

Almonds

Eating about 23 almonds a day is an easy way to incorporate many crucial nutrients into your diet. Almonds are rich in vitamin E, calcium, magnesium and potassium. Additionally, almonds are a significant source of protein and fiber, while being naturally low in sugar. One 23-almond serving packs 13 grams of healthy unsaturated fats, 1 gram of saturated fat and no cholesterol or salt. Of all tree nuts, almonds rank highest in protein, fiber, calcium, vitamin E, riboflavin and niacin content by weight. There are 160 calories in 23 almonds. While many of these calories come from fat, it is primarily the healthy unsaturated fats and not the unhealthy saturated kind.

Heart Health

According to the FDA, eating 1.5 ounces a day of most nuts, like almonds, may reduce the risk of heart disease. Many of the nutrients in almonds help contribute to increased heart health. For one, almonds are rich in magnesium, which is critical in preventing heart attacks and hypertension. Several clinical studies have also shown almonds can be effective in reducing bad cholesterol and preserving healthy cholesterol, which plays a major role in heart health.

Weight Maintenance

Nuts, like almonds, are also beneficial for maintaining a healthy weight. The fiber, protein and fat content of almonds means it only takes a handful to keep you feeling full and satisfied so you won't have the urge to overeat. According to "Fitness" magazine, the magnesium in almonds helps regulate blood sugar, which is key in reducing food cravings. Almonds may even be able to block the body’s absorption of calories, making them the ultimate weight-loss-friendly snack. Because almonds are naturally high in calories, it’s important to limit your serving size to the recommended 1 ounce, or 23 nuts.

Other Health benefits

Almonds may also promote gastrointestinal health and even combat diabetes. The high fiber content of almonds gives them prebiotic properties, which contributes to health in the gastrointestinal tract. Prebiotics are non-digestible food substances, which serve as food for the good bacteria in the intestinal tract and help maintain a healthy balance. According to a study by the American Diabetes Association, a Mediterranean diet incorporating nuts, such as almonds, helps fight diabetes even without significant changes to weight, physical activity or caloric intake.

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